I'm not a big fan of Valentine's Day. To me, it's just another commercial holiday that sets too-high, unrealistic Disney-esque expectations for romantic relationships. Don't get me wrong -- I am not opposed to making an extra effort to show your loved ones (be they spouses, BFFs, girl/boyfriends, children, etc.) that they are important to you. However, I don't think that requires a specific day loaded with expensive chocolates and sappy cards with words that we have not written ourselves and don't really mean.
Still, the Best Husband Ever and I did celebrate Valentine's Day -- yesterday. Our amazing church hosted its first-ever Valentine's Day dinner. For twelve dollars we got a killer meal for two, wonderful hangout time with fellow churchgoers, and some thought provoking group and couples-only discussion questions with time to discuss them. It was really special, and so simple. Not only did we (a couple who is notoriously shy) get to know some new folks, but we also got to talk about our marriage in a way that we never quite have.
Here are some of the questions the pastor passed around for us to discuss as a couple:
- Which would you pick for a vacation: beach or cruise?
- Which would you pick for a vacation: city or forest house?
- What is your spouse's top pick for a vacation?
At the dinner we also discussed what the vision for our marriage is, and how we influence each other. The Best Husband Ever and I struggled with these questions, even though we've discussed them before and should have an answer by now. What it comes down to is that, after everything (my eating disorder, his withdrawal, and subsequent rocky life changes) we just want to have a vision. Any at all. But we don't know where to go from here. Help?
This post turned out quite differently than I had planned! I was going to talk smack about Valentine's Day and then share some posts that I've loved reading lately. Since I've already collected them, here they are!
- 10 Ways to Empower & Support Your Daughter | Voice in Recovery
- The Power of a Poet's Line | Don Miller's Blog
- I Found It | My Thunder Thighs
- Interview with Natalie Goldberg, Writing Down the Bones | The Urban Muse
- Love is . . . | Yogiclarebear's Blog